Introducing Your Sex Doll to Your Significant Other
Posted on January 04 2019
There are some people who use sex dolls for their sole source of romantic and sexual fulfillment. If this is you, that’s wonderful! Just know that the rest of this post probably doesn’t apply to you. For others, a sex doll isn’t a substitute for relationships. Many of our clients are interested in pursuing and maintaining romantic relationships with other people as well.
This creates a challenge. How do you inform your romantic partners that you have a sex doll? When do you tell them? How do you get them to accept, even embrace the idea?
The bad news is that you have some hurdles to overcome. Some people have a very stereotypical view of this thanks to unfortunate portrayals in the media popular culture. Someone’s unknowing reaction may be to assume that you are sexist, that you view women as objects, or that you are incapable of having a normal relationship.
Smashing The Biases
There is nothing more useful in dispelling any myths about people who own sex dolls than your own behavior and interactions with your significant other. If you want to know how do sex dolls work, are a caring person, giving in bed and elsewhere, supportive, and a great communicator that will override any notion your partner has about the ‘type of person who owns a sex doll’.
Choose The Right Partner
Compatibility is so important whether you have a sex doll that you want to continue using or some other preferences. Your partner doesn’t need to be into sex dolls, but if they are open minded about various kinks, that’s very helpful.
Be The Right Partner
Of course, this all requires that you are supportive and open minded as well. Of course you need to be supportive of their fantasies and preferences, but it doesn’t stop there. Your attitudes towards various kinks will really influence whether or not your partner is accepting of your preferences, or if they feel safe expressing their desires as well. Avoid mocking or ridiculing kinks and fantasies no matter who expresses them.
Anticipating The Questions
Your partner is probably going to have some questions. They may even be upset. This is no time to get defense or critical. It’s perfectly normal for them to wonder if you prefer the doll to them, if you find the doll more attractive, or to wonder if this is a form of cheating.
Be open without being hurtful. Of course you shouldn’t say that your sex doll is more attractive to you, even if it is true. What you can say is that you find your partner absolutely stunning, but the doll represents a bit of a fantasy for you.
As far as how and why you use the doll, be honest about that as well. If you’re libido is stronger than that of your partner, you can explain to them that you don’t want to pressure them to have sex more often. The doll is essentially a sex toy that you use for sexual fulfillment.
Moving Forward
Hopefully your significant other is accepting, even if they don’t embrace the idea. Some people may prefer an out of sight out of mind approach where you are free to use your sex doll, but they would rather not see it or know the details. If you can accept that, this is fine. Some people need some more enthusiastic support. If this is you, then it’s time to decide how to proceed.
Your partner might embrace the idea of a sex doll enthusiastically. They may be interested in a ‘threesome’, or just watching you demonstrate. Their enthusiasm is great, but your comfort level is important as well. Sharing your sex doll is great. So is keeping it to yourself.
Be Proactive!
You probably don’t want your partner to stumble upon your sex doll, or to catch you ‘in the act’. This is one area where secrecy and surprises will make things worse. If you really don’t want your partner to know about your doll, then you need to store it so they won’t find it. Otherwise, you should probably make plans to initiate this important conversation. Just remember that a supportive partner won’t mock or judge you, and they may even see your doll as a way to enhance your sexual relationship.
